Is Technology changing love?
Valentines is here! Where is your partner? Perhaps they are in your pocket, maybe your bag, online, behind their mobile device that is if theres internet access of course.
Once upon a time online meant Chatrooms or flirting over emails. Society has always viewed the internet as a supernatural phenomenon, but now, its prowess brings a whole new ball game. Today we can swipe left or right or double-tap a photo to show our interest in people.
I know. Crazy right? It begs the question, is technology changing the way that we love?
According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, "our tech-driven, interconnected world, has developed new ways and rules to court each other, but the fundamental principles of love have stayed the same."
For instance, technology isnt changing who we love, but instead, it is helping us to meet more of our "type on paper" through sophisticated filters/categories and inclusive dating sites for religious, ethnic or the LGBTQ community.
One can consider Online apps sites such as Tinder, Hinge and the many others as Introducing sites instead of dating sites. We are now able to connect with more people in a single night sitting at home in our PJs than we ever could on a drunken night out in a bar.
Through the power of dating sites, partners can now prolong the pre-commitment stage. Previously, marriage marked the beginning of a relationship, but now it is the finale. People can build a stronger connection with partners online that by the time they meet in person, they feel like theyve known each other their whole lives.
On one hand, although our faster connections are leading to slower, more intimate relationships, on the other hand, technological advancement is reducing our need to love a human.
The openness and ease of access to various desires online can lead to the demise of more relationships. Secrets that can cause friction now easily come out on social media. Partners can become addicted to online gaming, porn and, gambling all of which lessen our interest in interacting with other humans.
Looking at Japan, for example, young people in Japan, particularly men, are failing to find time for love in the real world. As a result, they are increasingly turning to the Internet and software for love, attention, and affection.
This is also evident through the rise in sex-bots which have become so popular that Sex-bot brothels have now opened in several countries. Seen as the future of sex, it begs the question, can a person really love a software, or is it just an obsession?
As online companions, chatbots, sex brothels and virtual partners become more widespread and accepted, this is a question that will cause a few debates and changes in the next few years.
However, providing that you can separate the virtual world from the natural world, technology will not change the way that you love. So, if you found yourself alone this Valentines, why not set up an online dating profile? Technology has changed how we form and end relationships, but love will always be ever-present and technology has made it even more inclusive to all. As a result, its up to you what you do with it or how you use it to find love.